Love Is A Disease

Imagine having to wake up deep in the night and start to think of something that doesn't, in actual sense, have little or anything to do with you. All of a sudden, someone's well-being has become so important to you that, you become restless within yourself whenever a negative response is gotten from your so called partner.

Our predecessors may have seen the irony of this disease that, in most cases, they do betrothal of their offspring. Must nature be blamed for this? Psychological theories have given many interpretations to this disease- love, and at a point science became fed up with trying to understand this concept.

Interestingly, human beings have evolved from the primitive stage of looking at it as a mere societal value to a necessity. Why will someone kill his or her friend because of another person? Why will someone completely ignore his friend because he has found love? So you see why it's a menace? History hasn't been fair to us at all in this regard.

It should have properly dealt with this, or perhaps cure this life threatening disease for us, so it doesn't pose its ugly noses in our faces. At least we know that, for every four persons, one person will have a mental disorder in a life time. Why was same not done about love? Nature should have given us the instinct of not believing the false positive prospects of love.

We should have been told that once the disease is contracted one’s survival rate is altered. Alas! This is the plight of many, finding themselves as culprits of this four letter word. They go all out and do anything for the fact that they "love" someone or something.

In a case where power must come to play, the weak becomes vulnerable to this disease.

In other to fulfill the principle that the fittest must survive, the weak is hence relegated.

Imagine your partner demanding things you cannot afford. You become desperate to look for those things or risk losing him or her. You cannot do away with the fact that, precious time is wasted trying to get the attention of each other in cases where there is a default of not believing one side. 

But what makes it so fascinating is how strongly attached people can become to the extent of losing sight of the things that really need attention. What about those fond memories you've gathered in your life which rather need improvement? "I love you", "I will die for you", "I will climb the highest mountain just because of you", "don't worry, I will always be there for you" and many other paradoxical ones are the unfortunate statements that is uttered. Whether it is clearly understood is another issue. Literatures in Psychiatrist will enlighten us on how to properly use our mind for real thinking because they consider those statements having to be from the abstract world. 

Again, all those, will form the basis for the pathophysiological concept of love being a disease. It is very sad to hear people saying, because of "fear of loneliness", they needed to have love- the disease. Well, this must be true so long as you dwell in the realm of the abstract. 

In other fields, love is conceptually irrational. One cannot simply understand the philosophy of the binding force that suddenly results from the sight of a "beautiful being". Isn't this a mental disorder? Well, one must as well appreciate the fact that, whichever way it is looked at, love has greatly been misconstrued to be the most important thing to look out for. 

This is as a result of the hierarchical principal human needs proposed by Maslow. It's however a sad story to learn that the human race of today has accepted this as the gospel truth without, or with little critical analysis. 

Anyway you might have seen it, it stills stands as one of the diseases, just like AIDS, whose cure is yet to be discovered. One should therefore, carefully conceptualize this disease before falling prey to it, because it has the potential of ruining one's life forever.

This post is a feature, authored by Mawunyo "Warlord" Dartey, University of Health and Allied Sciences, Ho.